Happiness

Do you know? 80% people experience a vacation hangover once they return from a vacation back to their mundane life because they find it either unfulfilling, stressful, or disappointing…

Your long-term happiness depends on your day-to-day ability to find spurts of happiness.

Today, I have got for you five steps that you can follow to create happiness in your everyday life.

1. Set your own happiness level
One of the worst thing you can do is measure your happiness against the happiness of others.
Everyone is unique. If you base your own happiness on imitating others, you will never achieve your goal!

2. Acknowledge what you can control
Trying to control all areas of your life or other people in your life can be quite taxing and detrimental to your wellbeing.
The only actions you can control are your own. Once you accept this, you begin to feel much more at peace with yourself.

3. Focus on your attitude
You could possess everything that you think will make you happy, but if you have a bad attitude, none of these things will work to your advantage.
Before you attempt to resolve a situation, stop and think about the way you are approaching it. If you choose to have a good attitude about a situation, it will be viewed more positively by your mind.

4. Raise your frustration tolerance
Life will throw at you many trivial issues that you can’t control. If you let them make you anxious, you will get frustrated frequently.
All you have to do is to decide to keep yourself from becoming frustrated by the little things that happen. Raising your frustration tolerance can instantly raise your happiness levels.

5. Understand Stress
Stress is a part of everyone’s daily life. The trick of dealing with stress is not to avoid it but rather to understand it.
When you are faced with stressful situation, it is beneficial to accept it. Instead of making judgement about it, realize that its there and focus on ways to deal with it, without hiding/suppressing your feelings and emotions.

Always remember…Your efforts to find happiness may not immediately pay off. Keep working towards your personal happiness….you are capable of achieving it!

Do let me know how you are creating happiness in your daily life….would love to hear your ‘happy stories’….

Kids And Emotions

Mom! I am sad!
Dad! I am angry!

If you have also heard these from your child…then CONGRATULATIONS!

Instead of rushing to negate or eliminate the sadness or anger…take pride in the fact that your child is in touch with his/her emotions and expressing them.

When my 6yr old tells me something like that…I feel proud…of him and myself! The day when my son told me he was sad, was a proof of how effective teaching feelings can be. It showed that he had learnt to identify his feelings and was comfortable expressing them.

Not all of us grew up with parents who openly talked about and welcomed conversations around feelings. But we can change that with our own kids so that they know they can always bring up what’s on their minds.

Talk to your kids about various feelings…pleasant and unpleasant. Help them label their emotions and encourage them to express them.

Talking about their feelings gives them a different way of responding when things don’t feel right. Rather than throwing a fit, they are better able to grasp how they feel and communicate it.

Kids will have their tantrums and outbursts because they experience emotions which are beyond their understanding…by helping them identify their emotions, you can empower them to manage their feelings effectively and enhance their emotional resilience.

Teaching kids about emotions isn’t an overnight project…and it will take time to show results…and who knows – one day..you might also feel proud of him/her for saying “I am sad”..