Happiness

Do you know? 80% people experience a vacation hangover once they return from a vacation back to their mundane life because they find it either unfulfilling, stressful, or disappointing…

Your long-term happiness depends on your day-to-day ability to find spurts of happiness.

Today, I have got for you five steps that you can follow to create happiness in your everyday life.

1. Set your own happiness level
One of the worst thing you can do is measure your happiness against the happiness of others.
Everyone is unique. If you base your own happiness on imitating others, you will never achieve your goal!

2. Acknowledge what you can control
Trying to control all areas of your life or other people in your life can be quite taxing and detrimental to your wellbeing.
The only actions you can control are your own. Once you accept this, you begin to feel much more at peace with yourself.

3. Focus on your attitude
You could possess everything that you think will make you happy, but if you have a bad attitude, none of these things will work to your advantage.
Before you attempt to resolve a situation, stop and think about the way you are approaching it. If you choose to have a good attitude about a situation, it will be viewed more positively by your mind.

4. Raise your frustration tolerance
Life will throw at you many trivial issues that you can’t control. If you let them make you anxious, you will get frustrated frequently.
All you have to do is to decide to keep yourself from becoming frustrated by the little things that happen. Raising your frustration tolerance can instantly raise your happiness levels.

5. Understand Stress
Stress is a part of everyone’s daily life. The trick of dealing with stress is not to avoid it but rather to understand it.
When you are faced with stressful situation, it is beneficial to accept it. Instead of making judgement about it, realize that its there and focus on ways to deal with it, without hiding/suppressing your feelings and emotions.

Always remember…Your efforts to find happiness may not immediately pay off. Keep working towards your personal happiness….you are capable of achieving it!

Do let me know how you are creating happiness in your daily life….would love to hear your ‘happy stories’….

International Men’s Day

“Self care is essential. Give priority to your emotions” I said as I ended a session with a young male client.

He nodded with a laughter and a slight eye roll.

I wondered if I cracked a joke!

Unfortunately Men’s mental health and emotional wellness has been turned into joke by the unspoken beliefs and traditional masculine norms – that define what it means to be a ‘Real Man’.

As the world celebrates International Men’s Day, lets break the stigma and help the men and young boys around us – embrace their emotional selves and express their feelings.

Do let them know that:
– You don’t need to ‘man up’
– Opening about how you feel, is a sign of strength and not weakness
– Sharing your discomfort with others doesn’t make you a burden
– Its ok to cry and feel sad
– Struggling doesn’t make you weak.
– Its ok to ask for help

It is a myth that men are silently stubborn and do not wish to talk about their mental health. Many men are willing to talk about their mental health, but are simply waiting for the right conditions.

For one man, this may be a long walk with his spouse. For another, it could be a heart-to-heart with his father. For another, it could be a chat with a non-judgmental therapist.

Is there a man in your life that may need help? A male family member, friend, neighbor, or colleague?

Take the initiative to normalize mental wellness for men and help in nurturing healthy individuals, healthy families and healthy societies.

That would surely make the International Men’s Day; a truly happy one for all the amazing men and boys out there!

The Purpose Of Life

The Purpose of Life - Blog

A friend recently asked me.. “will ThetaHealing help me find purpose of my life?” Well, the question really didn’t amaze me…Finding our life’s purpose seems to be the biggest tryst haunting many people around us.

The question is very much relevant and important for our existence. However the real plague in this question is our definition and perception of purpose!!! We are all looking for a purpose that’s ‘great’ or ‘socially exciting’…… If someone tells us that our life’s purpose is to write a book or perform any other life altering task….the answer makes us very happy because it reinforces that we are born to do something ‘worthwhile’ …However if we are told that the life we are leading right now along with the tasks we are currently performing is our life’s true purpose…it disappoints us..as it appears too ‘normal’ and boring.

We are soooo obsessed with having a purpose in our life that we end up degrading our very existence. Many times our existence itself is our purpose in life. Life’s purpose doesn’t always mean that we go out and perform a task for the world to see or proactively influence someone’s life.

The Sun just rises every morning….and whatever lives are meant to get influenced by that….they do that on their own. The Sun doesn’t knock at every door saying “hey wake up..I am here”…Nor does it prod every plant to utilize its rays lest his purpose may remain unfulfilled. The Sun just exists…in all its glory without worrying about the lives it changes..for good or worse..as that very existence is Sun’s purpose.

Same holds true for us too….Our Life’s purpose is just our reason to live…a reason that makes us get up from the bed…it could be an external one like family/work etc or even an internal one like just being happy to be alive!!

We don’t create the purpose or meaning of our life…we already have it….we just discover it…All of us have a unique reason for being, and it can adjust and change many times over the years. The real meaning of life is to be alive and experience life to the maximum!!

Its so plain and so simple and so obvious…yet everyone rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves!!

Many times our search for an exciting purpose in our life makes us believe that our life doesn’t have a purpose only! I have heard so many of my clients say…” It seems I am just existing…it all seems so futile”. My question to them always is…” Why do you not commit suicide?”….and before I can even complete my question, pat comes the reply..” No No….then who will take care of my kids?/ my spouse will be left alone?/What about my old parents? Etc etc etc…”

So you are a good mother/father to your kids….their friend, philosopher and guide…..an eternal companion to your spouse….A loving and caring child to your parents….and you are still looking for  a purpose in your life?

Its good to look out for your life purpose as it will motivate you to press forward, breaking the mental chains of the past. However if ‘not knowing your purpose in life’ is making you anxious leading to a feeling of emptiness inside …it’s a problem… if your quest is crippling you and leading you to existential frustration or should I say existential crisis…then its time to stop and look back…

Looking back at your life….at the people whose lives you have touched…will connect you back to your life’s purpose and that moment will put an end to your emptiness and frustration.

I am reminded of a very beautiful quote is doing the rounds of social media these days:

“How cool is it that the same God, who created mountains, oceans and galaxies, looked at you and thought that the world needed one of you too…”

This quote pretty much answers your existential queries and fills the void that you may be feeling within.

The Universe crafted you with lots of love  and put you on this planet surely for a reason….and you are already on the path of accomplishing it…whether you may identify it yet or not…Its just a matter of time….Till then ‘Hang On’ and just enjoy Universe’s amazing work of art..thats YOU!!